How to Save a Marriage

In order to be able to save a marriage you must want to and be committed to saving it. It’s a bit like most things, if you take a half hearted, non-committal approach then the likelihood is that you’ve already become resigned to failure, you won’t put the effort in and you won’t be able to save the marriage.

So rule number one when looking to save a marriage, be sure that it is what you want and that you are 100% committed to getting a positive result.

It does surprise me the number of marriages that fail due to an apparent lack of effort and yet, once the divorce has gone through and the need arises to start all over again people will go that extra mile to find another partner. Humans are generally gregarious creatures, they don’t normally like to be on their own so why then, if people are prepared to put the effort into dating don’t they apply the same level of effort to their marriage? A difficult one to answer I know but it has to be said that if we all spent just 25% of the time on our marriage compared to the time we spent finding our spouses in the first place a lot more marriages could be saved. This theory just compounds rule number one, it takes time and effort to save a marriage.

In direct contrast to popular belief it isn’t men who seek divorce it is more often the women. That is not to say the blame should be laid at the women’s door because they often seek divorce as a result of their husbands infidelity, or other behaviours that are almost impossible to live with such as physical, alcohol or substance abuse.  In order to save such marriages, and not all can be saved, you have to tackle the route cause of the problem, the major contributing factor to why the marriage is failing. There is no point in trying to save a marriage by focusing on what your partner does when he is drunk for example it’s just as a result of the real cause, the alcohol itself. To save the marriage you have to sort the drinking which is the root of the problem and not focus too heavily on what happens as a result of the drink.

If you want to learn more about how to tackle alcohol or substance abuse go to:  health.org or alcoholism.about.com/ or for more advice on how to break any habit go to:  http://www.commonmarriageproblems.marriagehealth.com/Break_any_Habit.html

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